We’re in the midst of a big summer afternoon thunderstorm and it’s a welcome break from the unrelenting heat we’ve had all week. It’s 4:30 p.m. and I decided to get in bed to write this post because it seems like a cozy and comforting place to be right now.
I truly feel like god sent signs to me today that it was time to write this post. This morning I had an appointment with Tom Archer for work on my c-section incision. He’s a clinical bodyworker here in Charlotte who is absolutely amazing at what he does. He combines structural bodywork, visceral manipulation, cranial structural integration and lymphatic therapy in his treatments.
During the treatment we were talking about my pregnancy, birth, recovery from surgery and adjustment to life as a new mom along with the other challenges that I am currently navigating. On top of being generally an intuitive guy, Tom is the father of two small children, ages 2 and 5, and has also had four abdominal surgeries himself so I feel like he really gets it. In the middle of our conversation he looked me in the eye and said, “you don’t have to be superwoman” and reminded me that my body is healing on top of everything else on my plate. Those simple words brought tears to my eyes instantly and hit me at the core of my being.
While I promised myself that I would be gentle with myself after pregnancy and childbirth, it’s been difficult to put into practice. Sure, I’ve slowed down tons from my normal pace of life and activity level but there is so much more grace, love and ease to be had on every level. Tom’s statement felt like the permission to do those things that I hadn’t truly, fully given myself…or realized I needed. In that moment as I was lying on the table, I felt both broken and completely whole at the same time. And to have him working on healing the place where Finn was removed from me and brought into this world made it feel like a message from the divine.
An hour later I had lunch with a girlfriend at Earl’s Grocery. As I was leaving, a woman stopped me and asked how old Finn was. Her second question was if I was taking care of myself. She was a new grandmother and sitting across from her was her daughter with her three day old baby. They had just been discharged from the same hospital where I delivered Finn. We chatted for a few more minutes and as I was saying goodbye she again reminded me to take care of myself. She was one of those people who had a nurturing, loving energy about her.
I don’t think these two interactions were a mistake. And they gave me the bravery to sit down on a Friday afternoon and write these words. I’m not superwoman. I’m just a real woman who is in the midst of her own storm and doing the best she can.
Tanner and I are no longer together. Without going into too much detail, the last six months have been a tumultuous ride that ended with him sharing a month ago that he wanted out of our relationship but was fully committed to co-parenting Finn. We are both working to put Finn’s best interests first so I will avoid any public rehashing of the past because it’s not a worthwhile or helpful endeavor and of course both of us played a part in where we ended up.
Obviously, I am and have been struggling behind the scenes…a lot. Being in relationship strife is never what I dreamed of for my pregnancy or life with a newborn and being a single mom both saddens and terrifies me. I’m working every day to accept this reality and I am certain that I will find a way forward…it’s just going to be one hell of a ride.
One thing is certain, Finn is all the reason that I need to keep going. While the future might not look the way I thought it would, I have no doubt that we’ll make it beautiful together.
It was never my intention to keep my readers in limbo or to drag this out but unfortunately, this is not a pretty process to go through and it’s far from over. We are just at the beginning of navigating what this new shared parenting world looks like, which is completely overwhelming and heartbreaking with child who is so young. I am grateful that he has two parents that love him and want to actively parent him. Please send prayers and strength to all of us.
Love,
Jen
Jen, my heart has been yearning for you to realize that “you are not superwoman” but that you are a beautiful young woman who loves and cares deeply (it comes thru in your writing). I am the mother of 3 and grandmother of 2 and the days I tried to do it all are the days I seemed to lack in everything. I’ve learned first that as a mom you must take care of yourself first! Finn will then receive the overflow of the care you’ve given to yourself. My middle child (a daughter) was a single mom to my grandson. The dad was never in the picture. I will tell you this…you can do it! Finn will grow up to be a loved, well adjusted young man with a love for you like non you can conceive. My prayers are with you as you navigate this new season of your life.
Thanks for always being so open and honest with your readers. Your vulnerability is one of the reasons I keep coming back and you are one of my favourite bloggers. Sending you so much love. <3
I’ve been following your blog for years now. I’m so sorry for what you’re going through. But I’m also so impressed by the strength you’ve shown. Wishing you and Finn the best. You’re doing so well.
My heart hurts for you. You are strong but it’s good to be reminded that you don’t need to be super woman. I am glad you have a network of friends in charlotte who will help you through this change every step of the way. Thank you for your openness and vulnerability. It keeps me coming back. I’m sending you lots of love and hugs.
Sending lots of love and strength your way! I’ve been reading your blog for over two years now and I love that you are so open and willing to share, although I realize it’s not always so easy. <3
This brought me to tears. Sending you a big, big virtual hug and lots of prayers for grace. Be easy on yourself.
Clearly this is extremely difficult and not where you thought life would lead you. Thank you for sharing and I hope you know we are happy to support you. You provide us with knowledge and truth and hopefully you will feel the love from us. I am so sorry you are going through this. If I could I’d hug you I would. I was a mom who thought she should do it all and it was a mistake and it’s still difficult to get out of that mindset. Finn will love you for who you are period. You don’t have to be everything. Much love to you both.
You know I’m here for you xoxox.
I’ve been a follower for years & love your blog. You are an amazing woman and so strong. I know that it won’t be easy but I do know that Finn is so lucky to have you for his Mom.
You may not be Superwoman, but you’re a super woman. God has a plan for your life, and for Finn’s. Sometimes in the midst of an unsettling period those words find no comfort. But hold onto them. I don’t know you personally, but I’m certain you’re destined for great happiness and joy. God is so good, look what he already gifted you, a beautiful son! I find such joy following your blog, thank you. And remember, you can do hard things! You’re a super woman;)
Hello, Jen! I’ve been a follower of your blog for years. Like others said, I appreciate your transparency. You’re genuine and authentic and it shows in your posts. I feel like the way the journey into motherhood unfolds takes many of us by surprise in that there are some things you just don’t GET until you’re in the midst of it. I am sorry things are rough right now. You’re kind of being pulled in two directions navigating becoming a mama while figuring out the relationship changes with Tanner. Know I will pray for you in the days ahead ?
Jen, thank you for opening up and sharing your life with us. That takes a lot of courage. I very recently just got out of a 7.5 year relationship and am still working through things. Granted, I do not have children in the picture, but I can somewhat relate to the difficulties you are going through. Stay strong and allow yourself to feel emotion. It’s okay to feel defeated some days. And you will feel strong some days too. Things will begin to normalize and you will be happier than you know. I’ll keep you in my thoughts. <3
Thinking of you, Jen♥️
You are amazing, Jen. So beautiful, inside and out. I have followed you for 7 years and continue to because of your authenticity, strength, and vulnerability.
I was raised by parents who separated when I was very young. I remember my mom always saying that she loved my dad because he gave her me and my sister. While their co parenting was FAR from perfect, I always knew they loved us immeasurably and that they had respect for one another. At the end of the day, love and being truly seen is all a child really needs. It’s clear your love for Finn will get you through even the darkest days.
I will keep you and sweet Finn in prayers. Know that you are loved by all of your readers.
Jen I wish I could give you a huge hug. I left my husband when my daughter was 4 months old. My whole pregnancy my ex husband was drinking and going further down a dark hole. I knew it was only a matter of time. I told him I was leaving and he called the police on me. Never in my wildest dreams could I have imagined police in my home as I was feeding my baby girl. They realized he was under the influence and I left my home and never went back except to move out. The pain was awful. And I was so angry he took away would should be such a happy time for me. Everyone told me it would be ok. Even people who had gone through similar situations. But they were on the other side. And it was hard to imagine what that would be like. It’s been 3 years for me. And life is wonderful but I never could have imagined where I would be. Give yourself grace and time. Enjoy this time with Finn. Don’t let anything take away these special moment with him. One day you will be on the other side. Stronger than ever. Praying for you <3
Jen, you are so strong. You have a big and loving heart that will provide both you and Finn a beautiful future.
Thank you so much for sharing- that could not have been easy! I wish I lived closer – to come and give you a hug and maybe a snuggle or two from Finn!
Stay strong and always seek joy!
Sending you lots of positive thoughts and great big virtual hugs. You don’t have to be superwoman to be a strong mama for Finn, and you are already that and more. There is so much good ahead for you and Finn. Much love to you both!
Sending love, Jen. ♥️
Jen, you’re doing amazing! Thank you for writing this ❤️
I am a single parent who split with my son’s dad when he was a few months old. It is HARD and feels devastating. Allow yourself to grieve that. So many people told me things would be okay and that everything would turn out but what I wish I would have heard is to grieve. Allow myself to mourn what I was going to miss out on.
My son is now 3 and I am finally learning and accepting that my life is just going to be different than I had imagined. And even though it is different, it is still so beautiful and I am finding my way, just as you are.
Sending you so much love. I hope you will give yourself permission to be both sad and happy at the same time. Finn is lucky to have you for his mama!
From your internet friends around the globe, we love you so much Jen. You are such an inspiring smart beautiful STRONG woman. My heart aches that you’re heart is so broken while also bursting with love. It’s not fair to you or that sweet angel baby. I’m so so sorry. I wish words could heal you, but time will. Life with a newborn is so hard- I have two small boys- but our children make every single day better and Finn will do that for you. You can do this mama. Chin up and keep going forward. Your life is beautiful and so meaningful
During your pregnancy you posted about one evening where you’d told him you didn’t feel like cooking & yet Tanner brought home fresh lobsters for you to prepare that night. It kind of spoke volumes. No one is perfect but … I’ll just leave it at that.
I’m so sorry you are going through this, and at such a vulnerable time. I’m still trying to wrap my head around the fact that I’m a different person than I was before, and my daughter is 19 months! Give yourself grace. This is a hard adjustment, especially with a relationship change!
Oh Jenn! I had a feeling this was the truth and I am in awe of you and all you are doing for Finn and yourself at this challenging time! I have no doubt that all the healthy practices and good nutrition you pursue have held you up and I believe that you will shine thru all of this! Having two fur babies myself of the golden variety makes me confident that u have extra special love in your life too ?
So many hugs to you. ???
I have been a follower for years and your blog is truly the BEST! My heart aches for you. As if being a new mom was not hard and emotional enough and you have that on your plate too. Praying for you! You’ve got this and you are an awesome mom!
Jen,
You are an amazing woman and an amazing mother. All I will say is that, as hard and painful as it may be, you’ve got this. Of that I have no doubts. I’m sending you and your beautiful baby all of my love. ❤️
I’ve read your blog for a while now and never commented but had to on this post. Although I do not know you personally, you are an incredible mom and this job isn’t easy. I can’t imagine what you are going through right now but I have no doubt that you will find your way. Stay strong and I will be praying for you and Finn… he Is so incredibly lucky to have you as his mom. <3
Jen, you are so vulnerable & courageous… and one of the strongest women I know. Continue to give yourself grace as this not an easy time in your life, emotionally or physically. Sending YOU so much strength. Finn is so lucky to have your love, always.
Hugs xx
Hill
Hi jen- although I have been a blog reader for years, I have never ever left a comment on a blog but I felt like I had to on your post. Thank you for sharing so much of your personal life. My husband and I separated when I was 6 months pregnant and it was gut wrenching. Like you said, it was never in a million years the way I dreamed I would bring a baby into the world. I felt completely alone and like everyone else had picture perfect families, going on social media was super hard because everything felt like a reminder of the future I had lost. My little guy is 18 months old now and while being a single mom and navigating coparenting is by far the hardest thing I have ever done, I have also grown tremendously and I’m really proud of myself for doing it. I just want you to know that you’re not alone and you sharing this really resonates with me. Thank you, sending lots of love
Praying for you, friend. This may not be how you pictured your life going but God has a way of making things that are messy end up beautiful. I know you are and will continue to be a great mom. Give yourself lots of grace as you heal and navigate these new waters. You will be amazed at the joy that is ahead.
Jen-thank you for always sharing your heart in your blog posts! Your posts always inspire me to be open and live life to the fullest! You are an amazing woman and an amazing mother! I rarely comment on posts but really wanted to let you know that as a reader I’ve never felt strung along! There are just some things that are private! Sending loving vibes and prays your way!
Jen you are amazing! I’ve been thinking a lot about you lately as I’ve read your posts and followed your new motherhood journey. I had a little girl (my second) a few months before you had Finn. Every time you post I think of what a strong, compassionate person you are, it comes through in everything you write. Take care of you and know that motherhood will continue to give you the highest highs and lowest lows but the ride is the greatest journey. Thank you for your continued raw, honest portrayal of life. Keep your head up girl, one step at a time.
Jen,
I am so sorry to hear of all that you have been going through. Being a new mom is hard enough (I have an 8.5 month old)on its own let alone adding the relationship difficulties to it, so my heart goes out to you. Finn is a precious baby so enjoy each and every moment with him. Will be praying for you both as you navigate through this new way of life. Lots of hugs!
Thinking Kind and Loving thoughts for you. You may feel off course now, but you will find the strength to naviagate through. When your birthing plan didn’t go as expected, you rode that wave and you will continue to do so. Dont forget to reach out to others, who will gladly lend a hand or have an ear for you to bend. It takes a Village. God Bless You and Finn.
Just Remember:
‘When nothing in Life goes right, Go Left’
Being a first time parent is so hard under the best of circumstances; my heart aches for you to have this additional challenge. I hope you find yourself surrounded by love and support from other sources. You will be able to do anything you really need to do for Finn though, because being a mom does give you more strength than you could ever have imagined. Best of luck
Thank you for sharing your heart, Jen. The postpartum time is so hard, emotionally and physically, and I am so sorry you’re having to walk through this unexpected turn on top of that. What I gather from just what you’ve shared since you’ve had Finn, is that you’re incredibly strong, way stronger than you realize, and you are an amazing mother! You deserve someone who will meet you in that place and be strong with and for you. I am praying for that for you and that you feel your heart being healed each day!
Praying for you Jen! I’m a mom of teens and I still try to be superwoman! Your blog is so inspiring and I want you to know that as a reader I appreciate your honesty and willingness to share.
Jen, I can truly say that your strength is inspiring, and there is no doubt in my mind you will continue to be strong and shine and be a wonderful mom. Your son is very lucky to have you.
Your courage and authenticity is inspiring. Sending positive thoughts your way as you navigate this new stage in your life.
Sending lots of love to you. The postpartum period is already such an emotional and overwhelming time. It breaks my heart that you are also having to navigate the ending of a relationship.
I separated from my daughter’s father when she was 6 months old. My therapist told me the day that I left that at some point, I would look back at that decision and realize it was the greatest gift I’ve been given. She was right. It has not been easy and there have been (many!) moments when I have crumbled and felt such deep anger and despair. However, I am genuinely a much happier person and because of that, a much better mom. Coparenting has not been easy but thanks to a lot of therapy, I have been able to set aside my personal feelings and make sure my daughter always comes first.
I wish you all the best on this journey forward. It is so hard to see the light when you’re in the midst of the darkness but I promise it is there. And just as I was told, I promise that one day you will look back on this and realize it was the greatest gift you were ever given.
THIS. Sending you much love, Jen. Anytime you need an Asheville mountain respite with sweet Finn (or alone!), please let me know. We have a lovely guest space that I would love to offer you at the friend and family discount. 😉 (i.e. free of charge). All my best. ❤️
I went through a devastating event when my daughter was 6 months old. My life in a flash looked completely different. The best thing I did for myself was to grieve. To lean on others. To accept help. To be messy. That was the only way I had enough left to give to to my daughter. You are very inspiring and I’m rooting for you all the way.
Jen,
Thank you for being so honest. I feel for you so much. As someone who also semi recently had a baby and struggled with just sitting still, I wanted to share a few things I learned. (In no particular order)
1. Your body will look as good or better than it ever did but TIME is more valuable than any workout at this point. Workout for your mental health if you need, but know that rest is the best thing you can give yourself at this point.
2. As you are someone who blogs as their job, I hate to see you working so much during your maternity “leave”. If you don’t have to for financial or other reasons, I think we’d all understand if the posts slowed for a while!
3. I don’t see this in you but just wanted to say it as it was very true for me. It’s okay to not love every second of motherhood. This part is hard hard hard but I promise that the rewards come later and make it all worthwhile. I spent some time wondering if I was cut out for motherhood (though I loved my son immensely), but it all comes around. The days of wondering if you are just a human milk machine trapped in your house will feel like a distant memory in no time.
Again, just the things that applied to me. Best of luck and you have hundreds of readers out here cheering for you and who would be your shoulder to cry on if you ever needed it!
I know you both were going through issues, but two weeks after watching you give birth to walk away, I know it doesn’t help to hear it but that is not Someone worth being with anyway. It’s such an emotional place already I am sorry you are dealing with this. I’m glad you have such great friends to lean on and best of luck to you.
I appreciate your honesty Jen. You’re a strong women who will get through this. Thanks for being honest and courageous.
Xoxo
Sam
Oh Jen. I really am sending you so many thoughts & prayers as you navigate this. I promise there will be so many ups & downs & it will keep you on your toes & fill you up with so so so much love. I was there…& am on the other side & seeing my adult children now I look back & am so amazed that we not only made it but did it so well & with such grace (most of the time). Hugs to you & sweet Finn…you’ve got this mama!
Dear Jen,
What you are going through is devastating alone without adding the pregnancy, childbirth, postpartum on top of everything.
Having gone through a traumatic experience myself where I was on the edge of giving up, I can honestly say that you show all the signs of having the strength to get through this. Your baby boy is on your side. He will give you all you need to rise and flourish and the joy that you so desperately need right now. I see it in the way he smiles at you and how he looks at you. You are his everything and he is your everything.
Much love to you and Finn ❤️
Lots of prayers for all of you!!! You can do it…one day at time. Your light is so bright and Finn is blessed to have you.
I have been reading for years and can tell you are a REAL person. I am currently going through a divorce and can attest that break-ups are hard. You will find your way with Finn and be happier than ever. Continue to give yourself grace! You will get through this!
Sending you a giant hug and all the prayers. As Maya Angelou said..”there’s a rainbow in the clouds” for you ? Stay strong and lean in, Jen. You and baby boy got this ❤️ ..and spend lots of time with your family! Let them lift you up ❤️❤️
T.D. Jakes has a wonderfully empowering brief message called “Let Them Walk – Let It Go.” You can find it on YouTube or google. Every word of it is the truth; listening to this message and acting on it has brought tremendous change for the better at many points in my life. ❤️
Loved this!! Thank you for sharing.
Wow, that had me in tears! Really hit home. Thanks for sharing.
I love stories of divine intervention. It’s like little reminders that you’re going to be fine. Everything is going to be alright. Life is full of curves and swerves. There’s something about mamahood that pushes you to strive for perfection. But only God is perfect. He gives us grace larger than any mountain we’re forced to climb. Always remember that you have that grace.
You and Finn are going to be fine. I have no doubt. You have a lot of mamas cheering you on!
I’m a long-time reader but think this might be the first time I’ve commented. My heart truly goes out to you. I’m sure this is so very hard – especially coming at a time when you should be fully exploring new motherhood with no other worries than the typical first-time-mom anxieties. Please know so many of us are rooting for you to regain your footing and your sense of peace. Many prayers that all will be sorted quickly so you can fully enjoy your beautiful son unencumbered by the sadness and anger you feel now. xxxx
Hugs and prayers, prayers and hugs. I’m sorry you are going through this, and I’m sorry you’ve had to figure out how to share it in such a public way. Please know that even at your lowest moments, you are doing an amazing job. You will be okay. You and Finn are made to be. You are both beautiful people. Hang in there and hug that little guy on and on.
You’re a lot more gracious in your post than I would be, given the circumstances under which he left you. I can’t imagine I’m the only regular reader who feels like this is a good thing, although your heart is broken and you can’t see it right now. I hope you take this time to process your grief and begin the healing process with Finn by your side. I don’t know if this means much to you, but some of my friends have divorced when their children were extremely young. Amongst all their guilt about not raising a child in a two parent home, in moments of clarity they took some comfort in the knowledge that their children were so little, they’d never remember Mom and Dad together. This will be Finns’s norm and he will never know any different. The two of you will be fine in the long run, I just know it.
This brought me to tears. You are so strong and I admire you so much for being so vulnerable and brave. We are all here for you ❤️
I’m sorry that you are going through this. Motherhood is hard enough without adding a relationship breakup into the mix.
Although I love my two girls, I do find motherhood boring and draining and that is with the help of my husband! I just can’t imagine the strength it requires to be a single parent and I am full of deep admiration and respect for you. I
imagine the long, lonely days and nights at home might be really hard at times. Where I am from, it is really common to join a “Mother’s Group”. Is this something you could look into to help you meet other Mothers? Is there some Mom and Baby Pilates or fitness classes you could join? These group activities might help fill the time, give you something to look forward to and also help you meet other Mothers that may be full of the same questions and anxieties surrounding looking after a baby.
Good luck Jen, I look forward to hearing more about how you are coping!
Praying for you and sweet baby Finn. I got divorced when my daughter was 18 months old. After my ex moved out, I realized I wasn’t upset he was gone. It was more I was devastated my life wasn’t going to look the way I thought it would. Reading “The Five Levels of Attachment” at a later point of time caused a major shift in my perspective for the better.
“If someone is not treating you with love and respect, it is a gift if they walk away from you. If that person doesn’t walk away, you will surely endure many years of suffering with him or her. Walking away may hurt for awhile, but your heart will eventually heal.” Don Miguel Ruiz. ??
Jen,
Another longtime reader who has never commented (on any blog – ever!). You should be proud of how many other women are commenting on this post with positive thoughts and affirmations. I think it proves how much your vulnerability and honesty means to us. I want to reiterate other comments that you are a strong and inspiring woman to many. I am sending lots of love and positive thoughts to you and your family. Finn is lucky to have you and I’m sure you two will have a strong bond for the rest of your lives.
I am so very sorry you are faced with this pain as you enter into motherhood. I think you are doing an amazing job and I know Finn must feel your love.
I will say that although we are here to share in your personal journey and I love this blog, you do not have to explain why you waited to share this information, and you are not obligated to share it all. However, perhaps sharing will help with the pain and from the comments I can already see so many people wrapping you in love and comfort.
Keeping moving forward Jen. xoxo
Dear Heart, You’ve GOT this. It can be hard to do but do try to not dwell on ‘should’ve, could’ve, and would’ves’. You are not alone and you have such an amazing family and extended family – do reach out to them. They will always be there for you. No, you are not superwoman, but you are brave, strong, a daughter, a friend, a mother. Take the best care of yourself XO
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Sending you lots of love and light, Jen. I know this is such a difficult think to not only go through, but to talk about openly. I am confident that you are going to be the best mom and exactly who Finn needs, regardless of the circumstances. You’re not perfect, but no one needs you or expects you to be. You’re so competent and capable, even when you feel like you’re struggling. Just do your best with the tools you have, and it will all be okay. 🙂
I’m so sorry. For what it’s worth, it’s clear from the comments that you have an army of women behind you who support you and want to see you triumph. You are a strong woman and you can do this. Hugs to you and Finn.
Jen, my heart is aching for you after reading this post – to have to cope with that immense heartbreak as well becoming a Mom is just down right sucky. I’d imagine there is so many “would’ve, could’ve, should’ves“ plaguing your brain right now thinking about how life is “supposed to be.” You are an incredibly strong woman who is compassionate and loving… and “super,” and I have no doubt that this period in your life will make you grow in ways you’ve never imagined. But for now, let yourself grieve and please take care of yourself… wrapping you in so much love & light… lean in Mama, you got this. ?
I’m another long-time reader chiming in to send you love and encouragement. I was raised by a single parent – my parents split while I was young – and I think the thing that will matter most to Finn is that he has a parent that loves him unconditionally. Families come in a lot of different shapes, and they’re all equally beautiful. I can’t imagine how difficult it must be to face the postpartum period without a partner, but I know you’ll be able to get through this and you and Finn will grow into your own beautiful little family. I hope you are able to give yourself some grace and accept help from your support network. Sending you love.
Our imperfections make each one of us perfectly unique. ❤️ Prayers!
I’m really glad you and Finn are well and recovering. But I am very angry at Tanner. It’s unacceptable for a man to make a baby and then ask to leave a relationship. I won’t say any more. I hope your gracefulness at this time will serve you well. I wish I could help somehow. Sending you lots of love and best wishes. I know you will be alright, and that there is a man who is worthy of you out there somewhere.
Hello Jen, I’ve been reading your blog for about four years now. I’m about to graduate college now and your words have been with me the whole time. I’ve done SO many of your workouts and cooked SO many of your recipes. At one point while learning to live a healthy life, I was walking too close to the eating disorder / obsessive side of fitness so your blog pulled me in the right direction. When debating a traditional moneymaking major-related career vs. a career that i’m passionate about, I also leaned on your blog for inspiration. The point is I’ve learned SO much from you.
More importantly, when I was going through a profound loss, you were too, so it was really meaningful to have internet strangers out there who could relate. I’ve always admired your honesty and you’re a huge role model for me. I’ve never been through a major breakup and I can’t even imagine how it feels because the minor ones have also been really hard. You’re incredibly brave and I hope you’re giving yourself all the compassion and space you deserve in this time. Finn is one lucky guy and I wish yall the ultimate best.
Sending you SO MUCH love, Jen. As a long time reader, I want you to know you deserve ALL the happiness and love that life has to offer. Your breakthrough is coming.
Jen – been reading your blog for quite a while. I love your recipes and workouts but most of all the open, honest, and real posts like this one you share. You are so strong! Thinking of all of you.
My daughter found out her husband was having an affair when her baby was six months old and her toddler was two. She was devastated to learn it had been going on since she was pregnant and her whole world turned upside down. As a mom it was heartbreaking to watch but I knew deep down she would bounce back. She is strong and has used this to become an even better person than she was before. Strong. Resilient. Healthy. It wasn’t what she envisioned for her life or her family, but she is making it work. You will too. And you will be an even stronger and better person for it. You can do this and Finn will thrive.
Oh, sweet Jen. My soul is grieving with yours. You do not owe us any part of this story, but your vulnerability has brought an army of women to your side. I hope you find comfort in that.
This was not what you expected, and it is your reality. Grieve and we will grieve with you. You will find your way. Finn is a gift to you, but do not forget that you are a gift to him, too.
“I’m not superwoman. I’m just a real woman who is in the midst of her own storm and doing the best she can.”
A million thank yous for writing that. So many of us women and mothers could benefit from saying this to ourselves daily.
I’m so sorry for the storm you are in. New motherhood is hard enough and to add the layer of coming apart as a couple…that adds so much extra hardship. From what I know about you, you seem more than capable and you seem to have lots of loving support. All blessings. But that doesn’t take away from your struggle. I am sure the struggle is very, very real sometimes.
I’m sending hugs and support from a fellow mom and person who doesn’t know you but appreciates what you have to say! As always, thank you for sharing.
Sending you soooo much love, Jen. You are such a strong woman and such an amazing mother. You got this <3
You are so brave mama! I hope you’re working through all the emotions you’re feeling but find a way to allow yourself a lot of grace. Remember to treat yourself as you would your best friend. Don’t feel pressured to reveal anything until you’re ready. Readers will support you regardless.
Your honesty as quickly made you one of my favorite bloggers. Sending you strengh and love. You got this.
Jen, I have been reading your blog and cheering you on for years. My heart hurts for you. I’m so sorry this has happened. You are doing a fantastic job with your new little man. I hope you really will give yourself a lot of grace and know that Finn is such a lucky little guy to have you as his mom. It seems like you have a great network of friends and family around you too, which is such a blessing. I will be praying for you as you navigate this new normal! You’ve got this!
I’m so sorry. Pregnancy, childbirth and the newborn phase are all beautiful and special periods but also very stressful. It’s so unfortunate that you have had to deal with another HUGE stressor on top of what is already an inherently stressful time.
I can relate to your feelings of fear and that this isn’t how you wanted things to be. I will be keeping you and Finn in my thoughts and feel sure that you will manage to come through this difficult period, despite its challenges.
Motherhood is so rewarding and also so challenging — even after struggling with infertility, I still remember how difficult the adjustment was despite being so, so grateful to have my son. Though the way you may have imagined your parenthood journey would be has changed, please know that your son is already so loved and will feel that love! I’ve also learned that people (family, friends, random strangers at the coffeeshop) really DO want to help any way they can. I don’t think I did a great job of accepting help with my son (now almost 4) but I can definitely feel the difference now (with my 3 month old) that I say “okay!” to offered help….and even reaching out for it. As an introvert, this was really difficult for me initially, but it has made such a difference. And on days when I start to doubt myself (for whatever reason!), I repeat the mantra “I am enough” to myself. Sending love, courage, and strength your way!
Omg, Jen. Crushed and devastated for you and hoping and praying this is what’s best for you and sweet Finn. Sending lots of love and support. If anyone’s got this it’s you. You give your all and your best and this is going to get you through this. You’re strong and have so much love and support around you because of who you are. One moment, one day, one step at a time. ❌⭕️
My heart hurts for you. Post-partum hormones, learning how to navigate life with a baby, and recovering/navigating the end of a relationship are all difficult on their own but when combined it is a hell of a lot for one person to deal with at one time. It seems like you have a good support system from your family, friends and professionals and I definitely encourage you to continue to reach out to people for help with Finn and/or to vent your frustrations/feelings. You are definitely in my thoughts and prayers.
Remember” I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. ” Philippians 4:13.And the peace of God,which passes all understanding, shall keep your heart and minds through Christ Jesus. ” Philippians 4:8.
Blessings, peace , and love to you and Finn.
You are amazing! Years ago my spiritual director shared a quote with me that I say and share with others often. For years I would say he was the one that created the quote and then I found out the true originator.
“Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery; today is the present – enjoy the gift!” Eleanor Roosevelt
God loves you unconditionally every moment! Keep the rhythm in your brain and between your ears positive. We have so many thoughts that repeat themselves everyday; we need to be in tune to the thoughts that sustain us and lift us up and those that bring us down. Keep the rhythm upbeat. As I watch several of our children now as adults, I don’t wish to go back to the days when they were younger, because our time now is special, but the moments when they were younger is so beautiful. Enjoy the moments like you’ve described to us.
Finn is going to do great things because you’re a great mom and you’ll surround him with great people like your parents and grandmother. They are totally rockstars for both of you! I have been praying and will continue to keep you in my prayers.
I’m reading a really good book that I think you’d really enjoy as well. It makes so much sense to me and was gifted to me by a friend. The book is titled “The Circle Maker” by Mark Batterson. It really made me realize how important the people in my life really are to me, including strangers, long time friends and family. I hope you’ll read it and when you do – email me and let’s have a good coffee chat. I can’t wait!! ;o))
Love you dearly Jen,
Christy
Jen, you are a wonderful person, you will get through this tough time. All my love and prayers for all.
Good luck with everything. You seem to navigate through all this with grace. xoxo
I’m so sorry for what you are going through. Finn is beautiful and so are you! Sending you lots of love and prayers! ❤️ I see rainbows at the end of your storm ?. Be patient and hang in there.
You can do this! Finn will grow up to be a sweet, loving little guy and you will navigate it all with grace. It’s hard to raise a child with or without a partner, but it can be done and you are absolutely strong enough to do it.
Wishing you & Finn all the very, very best.
Sending prayers your way.
Jen – Sending you strength during this time of change and a hug.
Four years ago the direction of my life and my personal identity changed with a health diagnosis. This quote has helped me in so many ways perhaps it will speak to you as well.
“This wave will pass, and when it does, you will stand back up. You won’t be underwater anymore. You may be stronger or you may be more tired, I don’t know. But I know you will be standing, and in the sun.” – Melissa Camara Wilkins
Jen, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. You are incredibly strong. Sending hugs and prayers. Take good care of yourself! ?
My heart goes out to you and your family. I can’t even imagine how tough this must be, but you are obviously a loving and wonderful mother to Finn (and the dogs!). That love will give you strength.
You don’t have to be a superwoman, but you do have you to give yourself credit for what you are achieving, each and every day. As women, it’s so easy to zoom in on our flaws and perceived failures, that we don’t even acknowledge our successes! One of my friends went through a very hard period after giving birth and she started writing a “give yourself credit” list every single day, Some days, it might just read: “walked the dogs, bathed the baby, didn’t lose my shit at the post office, made a healthy salad for lunch, read a chapter in my new book, etc.” but it’s SO IMPORTANT to give yourself a little high five every day for everything that you are accomplishing! Some days will be easier than others, but I guarantee that you have something to be proud of every day.
All I can think about it one of your posts when you were very pregnant and tired and Tanner responded by bringing home lobsters and having you cook them. Speaks volumes in my opinion
All of my love to you, I can’t imagine the pain you’re going through. Please continue to take care of yourself. You seem to have a good network of caring friends and family, so don’t hesitate to reach out. And of course, your readers love you and are here for you as well.
I suspected something happened between you and Tanner but I had hoped it wasn’t true. I am so sorry to hear this and I am thinking of you during this challenging time.
Your openness with everything you’ve been dealing with recently has been unlike any other blog I’ve followed. We readers are rooting for your long-term happiness and that you feel how much support you have daily while navigating through the life changes you are experiencing currently.
Your time in Florida seemed especially therapeutic to be surrounded by family. If you need a friend to come over/keep you company in the days ahead please voice this. Asking can be a difficult thing for me to do, but it was a significant help to have the company of friends while dealing with a painful breakup. You will get through this and you are rocking motherhood <3
First of, so much love to you and baby Finn. You’re a rockstar and are rocking the hell out of these newborn days. It’s HARD and you’re doing terrific just making it thru each day, so never think you’re not super woman cos you are! Second, I noticed your profile is no longer on the Y2 website and hope that doesn’t mean you’re not teaching there after your maternity leave is over ?? but if it does, maybe now is a good time to move to Florida!!! You and Finn seemed so happy there in your photos and it never hurts to be around supportive family. Anyways, I’m sure these are all things you’ve thought of. Just throwing my two cents out there. Keep rocking on mama!
So much love to you!! What you are going through will make you the strongest version of yourself.
You’re strong, muscle lady..time flies and before you know it you’re celebrating Finn’s birthday and yourself.. you go girl!!
Jen, sending love and light and strength. You are an amazing, strong woman and I admire you in many ways. You will most certainly find your way through this chapter in life. I am so very sorry you are having to deal with this at this precious and sensitive time. Bestest wishes for you and Finn ?
Jen, I am so very sorry that you’re going through this. Celebrating the birth of a baby and learning to be a mom is effing hard, and to be grieving in the midst of it… to say it must be hard is an enormous understatement. I’m glad you’ve got a local tribe, and that your parents and grandma are such a great support. Lean on them all. Don’t worry about us readers… you do what YOU need to do to take care of yourself and that beautiful baby boy!!!
Jen,
I’m one of the many long time readers who have not commented until now. I check your blog regularly because I find you inspiring. You are authentic, and it feels like that is in short supply these days. I am so sorrry that you are going through these challenges. I have twins who are seven now, and I can’t pretend to imagine what your struggle is be like. But I am a firm believer in things happening for a reason. Even if that reason isn’t easy. Even if it means that we have to scale a mountain. I believe that the obstacle has been put in our path so that we can achieve a higher purpose and ultimatly climb to a higher height. It’s just so very difficult to see and appreciate that where you are in the climb. I am thrilled that you have been blessed with a healthy and wonderful baby, and believe that amazing things are yet to come for you. It sounds so weird to say since we’ve never met – but I am thinking about you and wishing you the very, very best.
Jen,
Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing your story. As a long time reader, I want to wrap my arms around you and give you a hug and tell you that everything will be ok. To be honest, I also want to say, that really sucks and it’s not fair for you. I can imagine the roller coaster ride you must be going through. After reading all of the inspiring words of love from so many women in response to your blog, I am more and more grateful to you for sharing your story. As women, no matter where we are in life, it is important that we recognize that we are not superwomen, but together, we can be a force of nature. You have helped create that and I for one am so grateful. My thoughts, prayers and hugs go out to you as you move forward with your sweet boy on a path that is sure to be filled with life and lots of love!
Jen, thank you for sharing yourself on your blog. I am so sorry you are going through this. I have two boys, 1 and 2 years old, and being a mom is the hardest (most amazing) but toughest thing I’ve ever done. The newborn stage is fresh in my mind and first time mom newness is fresh in my mind and I know this time cannot be easy for you. This stage is hard enough without the added storms. I just want you to know that I see you, I feel for you, and I know we’ve never met, but I want to send you love and light and more. Please don’t be afraid to ask family and friends for help. I was terrible at this, always thinking I could take on more. You are wonderful and strong and I am so sorry you are going through this.
I’ve followed your blog for a long time. You are by far my favorite blogger. I have always loved how real you are. I don’t have children. I have been through a separation. It can be crushing, even if it’s what has to happen. Doesn’t make it any easier or hurt any less. You will come out of this stronger. You don’t have to be super woman.
Oh Jen. What an incredibly hard thing to write to all of us and an even harder one to accept. The title of this post nails it though. It’s just a different way. There is no one way to be, no one way to live, no one way to see the world and no one way to raise a child. It takes a village and Finn has an amazing one. In the brief time I’ve been reading your blog you’ve shown me so much strength weaved into the heartache and the joy, but I wish you so much more. Sending prayers, good vibes and warm, warm hugs.
Dear Jen, I am a stranger to you, but I feel like I’ve known you a little bit through all these years following your blog. I am rooting for you, sending you strength when you feel like you are in a dark place, sending you hugs when you feel lonely and sending you the best energy I can possibly send to you. You and Finn will make it through. It is really beautiful to read all these comments, we are your online tribe! Personally I am going through really tough times, and I too hear my loved ones, saying: you are strong, you will make it through…it is so difficult sometimes to be strong…so hard! Although I don’t always follow this advise, I do know it works: reach out, speak up, follow those bright souls that make you laugh. Life is really shitty sometimes but there are those people that can change the darkness to light…and slowly, it will all add up…Please don’t beat yourself up, there are no perfect families, perfect lives, perfect anything!!! We all do what we can. This pain and sadness will feel less intense as time goes by. Baby and pups kisses help :). In the distance, and in this online world where we sometimes connect with strangers, please know, I will be thinking of you. We are all here for you…far away, yes…but sending love.
So sorry to hear about your relationship ending. I’m sure it is very painful, especially with a newborn baby. You seem like a strong, loving person and with the help of your family and friends, you will get through this and thrive. As long as he is loved, your baby will be fine! Good luck to both of you and may God surround you with his love.
This makes my heart ache. It is more than okay to slow down, and take the time to grieve the future you imagined. And of course take time for yourself – don’t ever feel bad about that! Think of it this way, a healthy happy you (mentally, physically) is able to take care of Finn better.
I found your blog incidentally while in the first months of my son’s life, he is almost 1 year old now. His name happens to be Finn 🙂 My husband travels a ton, and there have been weeks where I single parent and work and it is hard. But family is everything and you will get through this too.
Jen – You are a constant reminder for me of strength and determination. I am sending you an abundance of love.
I don’t have much to add that hasn’t already been said, but I am am so sorry for what you are going through and admire your strength. Thank you for being so open with us on your blog. I’m sending thoughts and prayers and love your way.
Thinking of you! Life is too hard sometimes, but
you’re going to be ok. Lean on your family, friends, and dogs and know that you’ll get through this storm! Also, I’m sorry.
Jen,
Without mincing words this sucks. My heart is hurting for you. I can’t even begin to imagine the myriad of emotions you’re going through.
With that being said, you’re an incredibly strong and smart woman and you will forge your path for both you and Finn. Don’t worry about owing us readers anything. We are here for you. The only people you owe anything to are yourself and Finn.
I think it’s a true testament to your character to read all these supportive comments.
Be kind to yourself and take care of yourself. We always say in my career field that if you don’t take care of yourself you won’t be any good to anyone. So do things that heal you. Give that baby and those pups a hug. You’ve got this Mama.
Best,
Lisa
I am a newer follower of your blog (but absolutely love it!) but just wanted to take a minute to let you know that my thoughts are with you. You are so courageous to be so transparent about your personal life, and it is much appreciated. There are so many women that you are reaching and reassuring that they too are not alone. Lean on your tribe and know that at the end of the day you are a strong, powerful, beautiful, capable woman. Finn is so lucky to have you and you are setting such a wonderful example for him of compassion, compromise, and perseverance. You go girl!
A teeny baby puts a lot of strain on a relationship. If I wasn’t married by law, I doubt my husband and I would still be living in the same house. But we are forced to put that work in. I’m not sure what’s better, being forced to do the work, or being able to (more easily) walk away. But I do know that you will be fine. Because you’re an independent amazing woman. Hear you rawr!
As a long time follower I want to say how sorry I am for the pain you are going through. You are a beautiful, strong, and courageous woman who has been an inspiration to so many. Ending a relationship is hard, and you owe it to yourself to give yourself time to grieve. Finn is so lucky to have you as his mom. Thinking of you and sending you love and hugs.
Hi Jen!
I’ve been following you for about 7 years and absolutely love the bodyweight and dumbell workouts you post. I do them a couple times a week and share them with others. I’m sorry for the extra stuff you’re dealing with while navigating motherhood. I have so enjoyed following your story and your honesty through self reflection is refreshing. You help me remember that we never know what someone is going though unless they choose to open up and tell us. I guess I just wanted to reach out and connect since I’ve followed you for so long. You are so strong, in so many ways, and it’s okay to not be superwoman and to rely on your support network. My souls loves, honors, and respects your soul.
Katie
Oh, Jen. I am glad your amazing friends and family are there to give you the hugs this internet stranger wishes she could! Families come in all shapes and sizes, and Finn is so lucky to have you, the pups, and your whole friend and family tribe. No matter what you choose to share or keep private, know that there’s so many of us out here rooting for y’all. Here’s to you and the beautiful future I wish for you two.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. While you’re certainly under no obligation to share, I do appreciate your openness and vulnerability. These comments have also been beautiful to read. It’s a reminder that none of us is alone in our struggles. Given your own personal strength and your wonderful friends and support system, I have no doubt you and Finn will come out on the other side happier than you could have imagined. Sending lots of love.
I love you and the woman that you are. It’s okay to be pissed, and angry, and disappointed, and just sad over what is. And it is more than okay to let others love on you and care for you. You ARE capable and independent… that that doesn’t mean you can’t or shouldn’t soak in every moment of people loving on you. You are more than WORTHY.
Read this yesterday and found it so true. We fight so hard with this beautiful vision of what “could be” or what “should be” … and it just sucks when it isn’t what we thought.
“Sometimes to get your life back, you have to face the death of what you thought your life would look like. You have to release control and give it to (God).”
I am believing for a new and beautiful start for you and Finn together. Much love.
Take care of yourself, Jen, in all the ways…… You will be just fine. Thank you for sharing, and I send you the best of wishes and all the love. You have got this, girl! Please remember to accept help (even for the little things) and ask for it if you are feeling you need more at times.
I’m so sorry… My heart aches for you.. I am praying for you and am walking this postpartum period along side you. Maybe we cannot all share the same struggles during this time, but you are not alone! Much love and prayers for you.
Hi Jen! I too, have followed you for years and never commented until now. Seeing all of these lovely comments really speaks to who you are as a person. Even though we don’t “know” you, anyone who has followed you can tell what a kind, nurturing, “real” person you are. That sweet boy is so blessed to have you as his Mom (as are your pups!) He will bring you more joy (and worry) than you ever thought possible! While I have no doubt that you will get through this and be better off in the end, I hope that you will 1) allow yourself the time to grieve and also 2) ask for help (or accept it) when you need it! Go easy on yourself! So many people are rooting for you….you’ve got this! xoxo
Let me start by saying I’ve been reading your blog for 5+ years and it is the first time I leave a comment. I’m a reader from the Dominican Republic and I fell in love with health and fitness some years ago. You and many other healthy living bloggers became my guide on how to navigate food and workouts. However, I must confess I was always envious of your romantic lives. It seemed that not only could you afford Lululemmon but your relationships were great too. Now I’m no fool and I know that this you edit what you show just like we all do. But still, I fell right into the comparison trap. Please don’t think I am in any way happy that you are going through this but I am incredibly thankful that you chose to disclose it. As someone who also became a single mom right after giving birth, my best tip would be put yourself first. You are not being selfish but in order to be a great mom to Finn then you must be well taken care of as well. Please know things will get better and you will adjust to your new normal. Think of everything you have survived so far. You CAN do this. Once again thank you and I’m looking forward to the rest of your journey.
Jen if I ever see you I will give you a big hug! I live in Charlotte too 🙂 I am recently divorced and my ex and I were together for 12 years (met in college when we were 18, married at 23 and separated/divorced at 31)- it’s been quite the ride. I cannot even begin to imagine what you’re feeling since we did not have children, but I do know how hard it is to end a relationship especially when you never dreamed that it would end up like this. You are so strong, you have a community of people who love you and care for you and Finn and you WILL get through this. Thank you for being open and vulnerable, I hope that helps you heal and is able to shine a little light for the future. You’ve got this.
“The women whom I love and admire for their strength and grace did not get that way because shit worked out. They got that way because shit went wrong, and they handled it. They handled it in a thousand different ways on a thousand different days, but they handled it.” Elizabeth Gilbert. Going through a breakup immediately after giving birth is an incredibly hard thing to go through. The first part of a breakup is almost always the worst and you got through it. No matter how messy it may have been, you pushed through and managed to care for your baby, your dogs and yourself. If you can handle that, I have no doubt you’ll be able to handle whatever else is thrown at you in this challenging process.
I’m so sorry you are going through this, it should be the happiest time of your life but it seems like things are bittersweet for you.
Know that you are strong, you are an amazing woman and an incredible mom. You don’t have to become super-woman, you already are one! You have an amazing support system through your friends and family plus strength within yourself. You have more strength than you probably realize! I hope you can feel your readers lifting you up as well.
There is nothing i can say that has not already been said here. so i will just say i am truly sorry and i am sending lots of good vibes/prayers your way.
Thank you for opening up and sharing with us, I know that wasn’t easy. You are a strong women and doing an amazing job with everything you have on your plate. Your story actually brought tears to my eyes, it made me think of my story and some of the similar struggles I have been dealing with that you don’t necessarily want to open up about b/c it’s a hard topic. Being a single parent is hard and down right sucks at times doing everything alone but it seems like you have an amazing family that supports you and loves you so much which is awesome!! Finn has a wonderful momma and soon enough he will be able to look at you and tell you he loves you (or what sounds like I love you) and it will make everything else disappear <3
I believe every mother IS superwoman in their own way, including you. We fail to give ourselves credit for the things that we DO do, and all we focus on is our so-called failures. We are human, but we are women. We have the strength to get through the tough times. Lean in on your community – you don’t have to do it alone. Thinking of you!!!
Dear Jen, I am so sorry that you are going through this now. You are strong, brave, and you and Finn are figuring it out together. Remember to ask for and accept help in these early days and later on. It seems like you have a supportive community of friends and family and you are doing what you need to do for your mental and physical health. I know from my own experience that there can be overwhelming and dark times with a new baby even without external stress. Take care of yourself. You are doing a great job.
I’m a long time reader and have always looked forward to your posts for meal and workouts inspiration. I’m so deeply sorry you are going through such a huge loss in the midst of becoming a new mother and navigating the physical and emotional changes that come post partum. It brought me to tears and I kept waking up thinking of you and your sweet boy (even though I don’t even know you). Im so glad you have such a great support system with your family and friends. Keep leaning on them and let them help you through. As I was reading a song came on my play list called No Longer Slaves. I’m no longer a space to fear, I am a child of God. Remember you are so loved by God, your family , friends and readers. I hope it gives you comfort as it has for me many times .
Hi Jen – its LeeAnn, who has been following your blog for some time. You and I have spoken as well, with my friend Brad Gruno. I am not as good as I used to be in keeping up with anything, but have been cheering for you with your little guy. I am just reading this and want to send my love and support. If you ever want a get away to Savannah, its here for you. <3
Jen: As a single mom of two, it saddens me to read your post. You sound like a strong and grounded woman, and, please know that things do get better. I was in a place like you 13 years ago. I now have two teenagers and I love the family that we are. You have my prayers and positive thoughts. Best, Jana
Oh Jen…. so sorry to hear that you guys are going through this. Sending love.
This has already been hinted at in the comments but I just want to add that I am positive that many of your long-time readers, while sad for you and how you feel right now, are also happy for you. It has been clear from things you’ve written for a long time that this breakup will be the best for you in the long run. But that doesn’t help the pain and fear right now, I know.
Times of change and challenge are when we grow the most, and you’ll come out of this feeling better and stronger and happier than ever before. Allow yourself to heal and grieve. And allow yourself to grow. You are loved by so, so many. Don’t ever forget to accept that love. You can be a wonderfully strong woman who at times struggles and needs to rely on friends family for help. That is normal and healthy and I hope you will do that.
Wishing you the very best. You and Finn will be okay!
Try not to be hard on yourself Jen! You are a strong person and you will get through this! Lean on family, friends and us….your readers. You and Finn are in my thoughts and prayers!
hi Jen. I am new to your blog. Thank you for sharing your life with us. I look forward to reading every post. Take good care of yourself during this time of great change in your life. I wish you well….
I’ve been a reader for ages but haven’t commented in a long time, just wanted to send you support and good energy as you’re navigating this new phase of life. I felt a pit in my stomach for you reading this post and can’t even begin to imagine all the feels that you’re feeling, just want you to know that you’re not alone and your bravery in sharing your journey is both admirable and inspiring.
Oh Jen, I’m another one who wants to reach across this screen and give you a big hug. You’re amazing. I already thought that, but for 100 more reasons think it now. Such strength and grace xx
I found your blog at the end of my pregnancy; our sons are about a month apart, mine being the older one 🙂
I love reading your blog posts and I am in awe of your strength!! You are reallly inspiring and I appreciate so much your honesty and voice.
Thank you!
I just read this post and despite it being late, I had to write and say that you and Finn are very much in my prayers. Your love for your little boy shines through. You’ve got a whole community of women cheering you on and supporting you. You’ve got this, girl.
Thank you so much Katie. I feel so grateful for the outpouring of love and support that I have received. Finn and I are so blessed.
Jen,
I have been following your blog for many years. I got divorced when my son was 4 months old. The beginning is so hard but please know it gets so much better. Every bit of pain and struggle will bloom into a beautiful connection with your boy like no other. No one intends on becoming a single parent but I promise you will be awesome. Keep your chin up and stay strong.
Susan